November 7th, 2009

The One Where I Introduce My Husband

Talk about wait­ing until the last minute to meet my goals. It’s 11:16 PM and I am just now get­ting around to writ­ing my post for today. And on top of being late, I am tak­ing the easy way out– I’m writ­ing about my husband!

Andrew and I have been mar­ried for 6 years but have been together since 1997 — really, it’s been that long.  He writes really heart-felt memoir-style pieces, but has given up on writ­ing to be an adult and become the pri­mary bread­win­ner of our fam­ily.  Like most men, he doesn’t talk much about what bugs him and I know that there are things that he needs to get out. Truth be told, I feel a lit­tle guilty about hav­ing such a great forum for my opin­ions while he had none.

Luck­ily I have finally con­vinced him, after two blog designs and a new URL,  to start blog­ging regularly.

Intro­duc­ing my hus­band  Dad on the Rise.

Fol­low him on twit­ter and show him the kind of love that the blog­ging com­mu­nity is known for.

November 2nd, 2009

Reproduction

I’m a lit­tle lethar­gic today as I am deal­ing with severe men­strual cramps, bloat­ing, and extreme changes in mood and body tem­per­a­ture. For the last 3 years I have had the lux­ury of not hav­ing my menses. After my daugh­ter was born I had an IUD put in and for me that meant none of the monthly issues. In fact, I felt a lot like Blade of female gen­der– all of the strengths and none of the weaknesses.

But then right before my father-in-law died in May I began get­ting the baby-burn. I watched my first born change so quickly and began to mourn the loss of an era that we will never get back– her as a baby. Look at her. She was so tiny and every­thing was so new to her and to us.

Lately, she has been ask­ing for a lit­tle sis­ter. My hus­band informed me that she no longer wants to be “Mya”. She wants to be a “Big Sis­ter”. He fig­ured out that to her “Mya” is just another stage– like baby, big girl, Mya, big sis­ter. It’s adorable. She is feel­ing the baby-burn too.

A few weeks ago I had my IUD removed– a first step towards reviv­ing my abil­ity to repro­duce. With it came so much more. I still want to get preg­nant, don’t get me wrong. But, man am  I a mess. At this rate sex will never hap­pen again because there is just no way that I want to be touched. I am relearn­ing every­thing about my body– like the hor­monal surges and the tem­po­rary emo­tional dis­tress. I used to know my cycle so well and now I find my self won­der­ing what the heck is going on.

The funny thing is that my hus­band is all ready for me to make his pis­til go berz­erk but I’m still try­ing to fig­ure out where does the pollen go?

November 1st, 2009

Halloween 2009 — Scary and Fun

When you love Hal­loween as much as we do dress­ing up becomes a prac­tice in out­ra­geous­ness. We had planned to use a sports theme this year with Mya going as a NY GIANT, my hus­band the Coach, and me a Ref­eree. Unfor­tu­nately, things did not work out (par­tially due to lazi­ness and par­tially due to money). So we just decided to have fun and while Mya’s cos­tume is new, ours have been recycled.

We spent the night with my in-laws, trick or treat­ing in their neigh­bor­hood. My hus­band and his sis­ter took Mya and my niece out while I stayed back and helped hand out the candy. It was a fun night despite the fact that my the Hal­loween Spirit seems to be dying down with our fam­ily. Next year we may end up going else where for the night.